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Sarah and John came seeking relationship counselling feeling disconnected and in a continuing cycle of bickering conflict.
They were watching TV in separate rooms, they had no idea what was happening in each of their lives outside of their relationship and had a general feeling of being roommates rather than the loved-up couples they once had been.
They shared feelings of being resentful of each other, trapped in a cycle they couldn't get out of, and sad that the relationship with the person they loved was not enjoyable anymore.
In our sessions together, Sarah and John explored their worlds outside of the relationship and their own experiences within it.
We were able to talk without conflict sabotaging the conversations and this allowed their needs to be heard and understood.
Through this Sarah and John also learned where their conflict cycles come from and how they were perpetuated. This in turn meant that because they could better understand where each other was coming from, they were able to listen to each other respectfully and the conflict that was once there began to disappear.
They were beginning to restore the positivity within their relationship that had started to erode over the years.
With this new knowledge, Sarah and John were able to see each other again, in a way, it was like getting to know each other in the way they had when they first started dating. They also appreciated that conflict will always be part of their relationship and that knowing how to navigate it actually makes them stronger as a couple.
If you want to get back to how it felt in the beginning with your partner too, this is your invitation to book your first consultation.
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David and Vanessa came to relationship counselling after Vanessa disclosed to David she had kissed another man at a friend's birthday drinks.
David was shocked and couldn’t understand how this had happened as he felt their relationship had always been perfect. Vanessa eventually shared with David that she had been feeling unhappy for a while but wanted to get things back on track with their relationship because she loved him.
Sessions with David and Vanessa began with working through David’s feelings of trauma following the betrayal and his needs around rebuilding trust with Vanessa. This work helped them to build trust with each other so that they could start to share their vulnerabilities and deep feelings in a way that felt safe. This helped them to repair wounds that had developed for each of them around their relationships.
Once David felt trust in Vanessa’s commitment to rebuilding their relationship, we were able to go back and analyse their relationship before the betrayal and explore why each other was experiencing such different feelings within the same relationship. This allowed Vanessa to feel heard and share her needs as well as giving David context and understanding of betrayal.
Both Vanessa and David were able to move forward in a way that will allow their relationship to continue to strengthen now that they have learned so much about each other. This reconnection has brought them closer together and they are feeling more ‘connected’ than before.
If your relationship has experienced betrayal or a loss of trust and you’d like to restore that sense of connection, please contact me now or book a session to get started.
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Jane came for individual counselling sessions after the difficult breakdown of her 30-year relationship. Upon embarking on a new relationship Jane was experiencing flashbacks, hypervigilance, and anxiety, all symptoms of betrayal trauma that had carried over from her previous relationship.
In sessions with Jane, we were able to explore what trauma is and specifically the symptoms of betrayal trauma. We broke down how it developed for Jane and how it was impacting her life and ability to move forward with relationships.
Developing the awareness to recognise when her trauma was taking her away from the life she wanted to live and the strategies to help her regain a sense of control over responses to it, Jane was able to learn from her past traumas and develop a healthy and more flexible approach to her future relationships that also helped her to feel so much safer in her decisions.
If you’ve experienced betrayal trauma or anxiety around your relationship, and you’re wanting to learn how to be in a ‘normal, healthy relationship’ moving forward, I can help you. Click the button below to book a private and confidential appointment and we can get started ….
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